Adios Adi

Adi, two weekends ago, stated that he wanted me to date other people. He has been non stop wanting to be exclusive. When I finally started to accept the idea of being exclusive...he throws the 180 on me. He wants me to date other people, because of what has happened in a previous relationship. We go for a week without seeing each other. During that week, he makes a trip to New Jersey and NYC for his birthday and to visit his sister. While he was there, he sends me this message that he misses me and that he wants to see me Sunday night. So, we get together last night. We chatted a bit on IM before I left to meet him. He said that he had to work so I agreed to meet him in Alpharetta for dinner. While we were chatting he made the statement that he wanted to be exclusive...that while he was in NYC he realized that he missed me and that he was really into me. I asked him what made him come to that conclusion and he said that he'll tell me that night. He even jokingly asked me to move in with him (ahem, hell no). Oh, and he asked that I wear a skirt, to dress up a little... so I did.

So, I get ready, skirt and all, then I drive the 45 minutes up to Alpharetta to meet him. We meet at the mall. I get there first, about five minutes before him. He pulls up and comes over and gets in my car. He gives me a kiss hello then he just sits there. He finally starts chit chatting....small talk. How was the week?, etc. Then he asks if Italian is okay...sure, I like Italian. He tells me to follow him, gets out of the car...then stands there and has a quick smoke. I'm sitting there just thinking..."this is weird." I sit in my car while he stands outside to smoke his cigarette. He gets in his car and takes off. Alrighty.... I follow. We go about 2 miles up the road (could we not have driven together) to an Italian restaurant. He parks...I park beside him. He is out of the car fast and walking to the door...doesn't wait on me to get out of the car. (mind you I'm wearing a skirt and heels...so I have to be a bit more graceful...which those of you who know me....know this is a challenge.) He's waiting for me at the entrance, he goes to open the door and it is locked. They just closed, lol. So, we walk back over to the cars...again, him walking pretty fast ahead of me. He asks if we can go to TGIF...I answer sure. He hops in the car and I follow. Back in the direction we came (again, could we not have driven together) AND once again, he hops out of the car and takes off to the door, without waiting on me. REALLY?

We go inside and have a seat. It is all a bit awkward for some reason. I asked him what was wrong and he just stated that he was tired. We continued to have small talk...how was my weekend, something about the U.S. school system lunches or such, how was his weekend (again)...I was bored. I finally asked him to explain to me why he changed his mind about being exclusive. He said that it was because when he was in NYC he realized he was lonely. (Really, he just wants to be my boyfriend because he is feeling lonely. Even though, we don't really get to see each other that much because of his schedule, so that won't fix the loneliness....and that's the only reason.) I laughed at him and asked how do I know that once we are exclusive that he won't change his mind again....he shrugged and said that he might. He said he is very impulsive, which I have already figured out about him.

We ate the rest of our meal, he paid. Then when we decided to leave...guess what he did. Got up and shot out the door. By this time, I was just like whatever. So, I gathered my purse...fixed my skirt, and took my time to walk out of the restaurant. We stood outside while he smoked another cigarette....and he asked if we could sit in my car. We sat in my car for a few minutes and talked. He kissed me a bit. Then right in the middle of us kissing, his phone started to vibrate. Without even checking the phone, he sat back...and said that he had to go, that it was his roommate and that he had told him he would watch a movie with him. I told him to go if he needed to go. By this time, I was over it. He got out and left.

WHAT?!? I drove 45 minutes and got dressed up to spend one hour with him. Someone that we can't ever really get to see each other....that time is always an issue. Someone that always wants to see me...yet, I have to do all the driving...someone that begged to be exclusive, that has been so attentive...and then last night it was extremely awkward. Can you not wait for me to get out of the car and walk me to the door? Do you really want to spend time watching a movie with your roommate when you can't see the person that you want to be your girlfriend for a whole week??? What in the world? Especially, to just get up and leave in the middle of me kissing you because your roommate wants to watch a movie. Then...you are totally NOT into me. You are NOT into me if you can't spend time with me. You are NOT into me if you don't even ride in the car with me or me with you. You are NOT into me if the only reason you can come up with to be with me is because you are lonely.

When he got out of the car...I couldn't help but laugh. It was completely ridiculous from our other experiences together. All I have to say is this: I have put up with too many craziness with this guy, gave him too many chances, wasted to many gallons of gas, and now was NOT treated like a lady or that I was someone to spend time with.....ADIOS ADI. (now, I just have to tell him all this.)